Megan, Daddy,

DH had went to Jakarta for business for two months. While he was there, he would call home daily and and sometime I'll put him on speaker and he would great Megan. Megan usually laughed or smiled to the phone and sometime, she would kissed the phone.

When DH returned after the long trip, Megan can hardly recognized her daddy at all. She put on sour face and going to cry face when he wanted to hold her and screamed when he insisted to bau bau her.

Hubby was so disappointed, his precious baby girl didn't recognized him at all. But he keep calling her said ' Cing Cing (her Chinese name) this is pa pa..." repeat it over and over again, not long, she seem recognized her voice dared herself to touch her papa. Then, some how, she remember! She laughed and smiled and willing to be bau- bau. DH was so happy ....

Now, as she learn that her papa spoiled her so much, she became manja. If she was forbid to grab something, she will hit anything around her, she will even turned her face away from you when she's not happy. What a temper my daughter has!

But, she also built up her soft side, she love fluffy dolls. She will kiss them. hug them and make 'ng..ng..' sound. She sleep with them ,carry them everywhere.

Hahaha I never known that my Megan will be so girly. I was tomboy when I was child, my toys were swords (plastic) and guns (plastic)

But she is still a baby, but I hope she will never like me hehehehe

PC DOWN!

My old PC down again! I really need to buy a new one but I'm really broke now. Aiya... Head ache...
I add this blog via cellphone and I cant write too much cause it's expensive.
Now is the time to be frugal. Limited on spending to save more money to add capital into business.

Stair 'walker'?

Megan no interested be stair 'crawler' now but instead she has evolved become stair 'walker'. Look, how happy she is...

Distrubing

I saw something very disturbing at gas station yesterday. From the car next to my petrol stand, a mummy hurried brought her daughter around 5 or 6 years old out from their car to the green area (where the station plant a little grass and scrubs) and asked the little girl pee on the grass.
Hello! There is a toilet in the station and the green area is by the road side and so many cars were passing by. How come a mother can asked the girl to do that? She supposedly to teach her appropriate a habit and to respect herself. Not to pee by the road side. Don't resonate that she is just a little girl and no need to be shamed. And there are many pedophilia out there and the mummy even left her alone to squat there to pee while the mummy continued to fill up the tank. She can be snatched away unexpectedly.
There are so many missing kids articles on TV station and from newspaper, didn't that taught her anything?
I was tempted to horned my car and asked her not to pee there but the station was very crowded and the car behind me already horned me to drive faster ,so , I drove away....

updating on car accident

Me and the driver of the car I hit has met at my insurance company. They agreed to pay all the repairing expenses on both side, me and the victim, I also take this chance to claimed some body care such as dented I've made on the back bumper.
But now, seem can't figured out the time to take the car to workshop leh.. no time.
Daddy.. can I borrow your driver, please..please...?

Megan and stranger

I'm so glad Megan hair is long enough for me to clip. She look more girly, before that she just look like boys. Well she got her daddy face, what can I said?
Dresses I bought for her (since I was pregnant)fit well now. Hehe, mummy can play barbies on her baby girl :)

Compare with her cousin, she seem so afraid with strangers(a.k.a my friends or my relatives), she will hide behind my leg or asked me to bau-bau. Even though,some of them has met her several times,she also always put on sour or cold face in the crowd
and clingy on me, must I concern? or she will just grow out of it?

Megan has only 6 teeth, she is nearly 14 months already,and she can't even called me mumma yet just randomly mam..mam..mam...aiyo...really worried lah. but can recognized things well such and do as she was told but I just worried lah
Megan and Jasmine at Ka Ya Kun

Megan and Jonathan at SushiTei( note: Ive clipped her hair but she kept taking them off)

Can't Sleep

It've been hours. I just tossed around the bed, felt tired but just can't keep my eyes shut. My heart beating rapidly, my mind and my nerves so tense. Maybe i still in shock. I accidentally hit a car this afternoon. Luckily nobody hurt. But the car I hit was dented and it's bumper felt off. Toyota Advanza had no chance when bumped by x'trail which front bumper was also a bit off (you can imagine, how hard the impact). Another still count lucky was my car was still being insured,means insurance company will cover up all.
It all happened because I answered my cell phone when driving on crowded area. The car ahead suddenly slowdown and i just didn't aware because i was staring on my cell's screen-then-BANG! I hit it.
I never hit any car before or even being hit although driving in Medan is like driving in war zone, but i was a careful driver. Until today. *sight*
Oh yes,another lucky is i was alone, thanks god i didn't bring Megan with me.
Next time I'll be more careful. Please forgive my uneven writing because I'm blogging on my bed from my cell.
Got to try to catch some Zzzz.. Had to go to insurance comp tomorrow, ups..., today

Combi: Toilet Training Seat

I bought Combi: Toilet Training Seat two weeks ago from SOGO. It look cute and sturdy. The most important is Megan like to seat on it.
The seat is suppose for 18 months toddler and below 30 kg. But because Megan already able to sit straight and without assistance, I thought, why not give a try?
To introduce the seat to her, I put her on it when she just wake up dry from a nap and asked her to shi-shi by making shiiii-shiiii... sound and she peed in the toilet. Since then, in these past two weeks, almost every time she want to shi-shi, she'll tell by making 'nng' sound and tapping her diaper. Glad it's useful.

Marketing and Designing

Let me share with you why I sell bra, No, not that my design project has been cold down but marketing world always appealing me in some way. I always tell my sisters that I want to try to be a marketing especially women and children products, just to try, to challenge myself.
Architectural world is a lot different with marketing world although in some aspects still the same ' selling'. In designing, we listen to client's demand and create their dream into reality, sometime, we guide them a.k.a influence to create a good design but mostly we met clueless client who really didn't know what they want. This type of client is the one make me headache, they've money and just want to show off, they want their house to stand out but still demand: kitchen like Helena's or living room like Ellen's etc. and we, as architect, if just heading their command.... the result will be chaos.
In designing, we must have a theme, a story-line to create a type. Then from a type, we create detail which show off the owner character and needs. These process rarely applied in Medan, the houses just lack of process, don't have story lines and most of them just look similar, lack of character.
I can truthfully admitted that I'm not very enjoying myself as an architect in Medan. Maybe because mostly my client didn't give me a space to create a really good one but instead they're busy dragging me to their friend's houses and ask similar design which mostly collided each other. Usually I'd try to consult them but mostly they are stubborn.
Have you seen a house with Classic Design with all the sculptures and details but with modern minimalist interior in black and white? They just a goner, so mismatching even DECONSTRUCTION Architect Pioneers will give out a cried. BUT these are favorite here, in Medan. And I dislike them although I also design them for money (can't be too idealist, right?)
The second reason, In Medan, there is no rules in designer, almost all designer just copy the design from magazine to present to the owner and worse, just copycat others designer's project. My design has been stolen over and over and being an idealist (was) It really depressed me. HAH! All the sleepless nights result of thinking and designing just being copied by others and claimed to be their own design were really frustrating.
Third, client just pay cheap for designing fee, because there're so many copycat architect and designer out there, I can't really blame them. Who want to pay high price for your services if they're doubtful if their house design is genuine one?
I have bad experience in this case once, with my cousin. She paid me only 2.500.00 IDR for her whole house design (16mx 25m, three stories) because a contractor offer her RP 2.500.000 to draft my design into CAD (I used to design old fashionably with pencil and papers on drafting machine because I felt this way represent each architect character more, it show how an architect drew lines and more artful, what an idealist me) and when I told her my fee is cheap, I only charged her RP. 5.000.000 (too cheap, even my colleageu blame me for offering too low for standard price, but she is my cousin and her father a.k.a my uncle has help my parent a lot when my DF business was down, for me it was a thank you project and I even offered her free charges but she's the one who demand me to give her the price) I tried to explain that the fee was for my painstaking design idea, not for buying pencils, erasers and papers but she just can't accept it and kept accusing me for charging her too expensive (just info, she is very very rich and has very successful husband, even her boys PS cost more than RP.5.000.000 and she bought them several). So I said ' Okay, just don't pay, I'll give you for free.'
Later, she asked her driver to give me Rp. 2.500.000 in cash. At that time I was so tempted to reject the money but DM told me not, just accepted them and let go. I donated all of them for charities, for 'kuat' or buang sial hehe.
What until now I can't understand is, she is an educated professional herself and why act so unprofessional? and also her husband is an Aussie educated, General Manager of a wooden frame company . I really really don't understand.
From that moment, I never ever accept a design project unless I also construct them ( I built a partnership with local contractor and gain fee from there). Much less fussy and gain much more money. What an experience.

In marketing, we promote the goods, educated and influence people to buy them and to satisfied with them and although I met so many character of buyers not to mention many shape of breasts hehehe... for me, selling is much much more easy but less less money.
Before decide to be sole distributor of Elling Bra in Medan, I was tempted to set up e-store to sell cloth diapers and pads instead ( inspired from www.miabambina.com and several others) but after long survey, I decided the time is not right yet, and people here just don't care about trash, hygiene, environment like us, they didn't bother at all. And the capital is huge and all the importing goods procedure make me headache.
Finding Elling Bra was really a pure coincident. I just looking for good bra for myself to reconstruct my sagging breast after nursing Megan for 1 year. I found them very interesting, promising and giving a fresh head start in Medan is challenging. So, I and my cousin become sole distributor in Medan
So, do I selling bra for money? Yes, but not the most focus but I do sell them for experiences and for building friendships.
Applause for me *plok..plok..plok* hehehe

Beijing Olympic 8-8-2008 Opening Night

Did you watched it? Oh.. So spectacular. Splendid!!! It show a very deep meaning and history yet now day very High Tech China. Well done.
DM,DF, as my translator and I even asked bibik to stay over to look after Megan so I can watched it without disruption. Hehehe It paid off and I'm very satisfied. Can't wait for the closing ceremony, must be another amazing one.

Megan

After almost a week, Megan still have runny nose. My aunt said if she still like that on Monday, I better go to pediatric to get some antibiotic prescription for her.
Although she is still active as usual and no puke anymore, but she is skinnier, maybe because of her appetite is down due to runny nose. She also has 'panas dalam' her lips so red and sweat a lot.
I've fed her some bird's nest soup but she didn't like them. I only put some ginseng and tang kua sugar(rock sugar?) when cooking the soup so maybe they still a bit smelly.
I drink them too, woke up in the midnight (the best time according to DM) just to drink the bird's nest soup because I felt my throat was a bit sore,have some phlegm and also stuffy nose. And in the morning... I felt so fresh and my air way was so free. All the symptom gone..
But Megan still running around with runny nose, my poor baby...

Beijing Olympic 8-8-2008

The fever of Beijing Olympic opening ceremony is so fascinating. I can even feel the excitement here, in Medan, Indonesia. Surely I'll watch the opening tonight from TV.
Here is a cute, most popular, hair cut I've found from China Daily news. Enjoy :)

Durian Again and Some Manggis

More durian today.. and even better, some manggis too ( I don't know the english word for manggis). Have been along time since I ate a really good manggis because most of good ones were exported. But these were from DF's friends own farm and taste really really good, sweet and juicy.
And the durian most were durian tembaga and also 'kucing tidur' type means only one durian in each shell. Very fulfilling lah...

Durian!!!

Daddy brought home some durian today and you know what? Among them there're 'durian tembaga' or ' copper durian' which with copperish shell and meat and ohhhh so yummy plus fragrance. And most of it, they taste a bit bitter.
I love bittersweet durian. Never like too sweet one.
These snacks really light up my day.
Poor Megan was not allowed to taste them.

Tiring Weekend

My weekend was GOSH!!! so... tired. I got new renovation project so had spend bunch of time with house owner to discuss and made measurement and took pictures. Then have to meet new contractor to discuss our strategic and plans (basic ones). After that, squeeze out 2 hours more to meet prospective bras buyer and sold bras, not to mention drove round and round to find her house because she lived in area I'm not familiar with.
When got home, my Megan quite fussy and clingy on me and sneeze a lot. As I've suspected, she can't slept well at night ( also because the night so hot and the air con was off caused no electricity, oh yes... we got black out twice a day that Saturday and I didn't turn on the generator to reduce pollution) to top of it, when the electricity on again, I, so sleepy and tired, climbed off bed to close windows and turn on air con, my SHOCKS!!! Megan, who was slept beside me, rolled of the bed and hit hard on the floor!!! I was so so panic and she scream her lung out. After quickly gave her body checked to make sure no harm done and soothed her (DH is out of town again) I tried to feed her some water to calm her, she refused and seem so sleepy, I tried to make her awake but she screamed angrily and I gave up, considering she hit her head side way not back which was more dangerous, according to DM, but I hold me slept and put closed eyes on her for 1 hour, then slip down to fitfully slept.
Megan cried a lot, her slept was restless, and in the morning a.k.a. Sunday, she had stuffy and runny nose. She cried because she can't breath well and felt strangely tired. when I fed her breakfast she PUKED....a lot...on herself, her plate and my shirt...OMG! she never puked before I was shocked again, luckily my maid was fast, she quickly carried her from her high chair to clean her up so I can clean up myself and DM then play with her to sooth her. After frantic phone called to my aunt, a doctor, to prescribe some meds, an hour later, I feed her meds and she PUKED again....Aiya... really messy....And I worried so much because she seem so sick, My aunt calmed me explained that it's okay and ordered to give her good slept. Luckily she able to slept quite well except the stuffy nose after that she seem quite a bit her usual self, quite energetic but with bad tempered. I spend whole tiring day put closed eyes on her and play with her, she cling on me only.
Today she was okay abit. I'm so glad....but today I didn't worked, I just stay at home to care for her... Wish tomorrow she'll be okay.

Lifes of women

Let me tell you a story about 2 women. One in her forties and another just seventeen.

The older one, just call her Mia, was a widow with one girl. Why she divorced ,I'm not sure.To support her living along with her daughter, she run a beauty salon which gave facial services and sold some facial products. She was not very pretty but blessed with big bright eyes. Among her friends and neighborhood, she was also known as a mistress of several rich men who were the real support of her financial and also donated a large mount of money for her to opened her store because she was left penniless after her divorced.

The younger and still teenager women, Fanny, is the sole daughter of Tom. Her life is just like a fairy tales, blessed with pretty face and OK brain. Her father is one of the successful and powerful business man in town. She live in a big and beautiful house and has maids and driver to provide all her needs.
What people didn't knew was her life was not as good as we thought. Her beloved daddy seldom home and had many many women outside. Her mum always quarreled with daddy and later moved out, left Fanny alone in the house.
Fanny life become more stressful since her mother moved out and daddy started to bring his women homes to have one night stand. She objected her father several times but her daddy put the blame on her mother instead.
Fanny, unable to channel out the stress, become sour girl. Her friends left her because of her rudeness except her childhood girl friend, Lin. Lin understood her sorrows and sadness decided to stick on her side to support her.

Tom went to Mia store one day, introduced by a friend, to have some facial and bought some of her products. Start from flirting phone calls and sms, sooner they began their affair.
Tom never brought Mia home because she can't stay over to take care her own daughter so she never met Fanny. But she called him often, days and nights, and Fanny heard.

Fanny jealous and angry with her father who paid more attention to other women then herself. She began her own investigation to find out about Mia. Lin asked once, why she was so obsessed with Mia, and she replied that she want to know what's so special with Mia that her daddy even worried if she slept too late or become frantic when she caught cold but never bother if Fanny was sicked.
She found out Mia store and phone number and called her to asked her to left her father, but Mia replied that was not her fault that Tom loved her and also challenging Fanny to asked him herself and blamed Fanny's mother not took a good care of him.
Although her mum left her, Fanny knew she is innocent and she didn't bring her along because she was scared she would not able to give Fanny a full living as her father could, so, she hate people who put the blame on her.

One day, she just asked Lin to accompany her to Mia store resonate that she want to talk her out. But none knew what was in her mind.
She went there and met Mia, Mia didn't recognized her because they never met, and pretended want to have a facial treatment. Mia brought her into facial room and Lin waited outside. Later she heard quarreled and screamed from inside the room, she hurried into the room and witness a true HORROR, Fanny was stabbing Mia with along kitchen knife and when Fanny pulled it out her inert was flown out. Lin passed out. Fanny freeze on the spot, holding the knife. Bleeding Mia ran out and screamed for help but the passer-by none dared to give aid because it was known in Indonesia, if you helped, the police will accused you s a culprit instead. Mia called her friend and sat down holding her bleeding stomach, before she passed out, she whisper to her helper, 2 men who own an IT store across hers, not to called police and said it was family matter. She was brought to the hospital and was ignored by doctor because she has no family member to sign the paper works and the 2 men didn't dared to sign, later her friend came and she was admitted into ICU, she went coma for a week and after that died.
Fanny was captured as a murdered suspect and sentenced 20 years jail.
Because Tom is very influence man, the news was clammed down and only cheap newspaper published it.
So, tragic, the life of two women were damaged because of one man irresponsible. I don't know who I felt more sorry for, Mia or Fanny......
For sure, Fanny life has ended in this town, except her wealthy father moved her to another country to have a new beginning, but I think she will not be the same before, she was traumatize with what herself did.